Waiting for your confidence to show up before you can start something is often a waste of time. The irony is that until you feel confident, you can't do anything, and you can’t start anything until you have confidence.
What if you just started anyway? Start it scared!
You take a small action, and it works. So you take another one and get a better result. Feeling confident, you continue to act and now you have momentum. Notice what happened. Your confidence showed up at the same time as you were taking action, and it increased the more you acted. You start seeing results and your confidence goes through the roof!
The real obstacle to your progress is not the absence of confidence, it's your imagined fears.
Fear of failure - what if it doesn't work?
Fear of success - what if it does work?
Fear of the unknown - I don't know what will happen
Fear of other's opinions - what will they, my family, friends, colleagues, think of what I'm doing?
We can all identify with one or more of these fears and how it stops us. When you overcome your fear, taking action is easy.
How to begin?
Be clear about what you want. Having this clarity means that any action you take is working towards this goal.
Why are doing it, why is it important to you?
Decide if this is important to you, or are you going to give up as soon as you hit the first obstacle.
Why wouldn't I do this?
This is where you address those fears. Work through your list of fears. Are they important and are they sufficient to stop you acting?
When you realise that fears don't go away, new ones appear to replace the previous ones. You will feel the shift in your attitude.
So, you don't need confidence to start, that will grow as you take action. What's the worst that can happen? Do it scared, it doesn't matter.
“Be clear about what you want.
Decide
Face your fears.
The rest is up to you”
Beverley Bramwell