HUMANITY ON SCREEN

By Grace Thompson

In the past few weeks, we have seen our political leaders on television more than ever before. Regular press briefings, updates to the House of Commons and more breakfast appearances and interviews than the biggest political junkie could wish for.

Even scientists have not been spared the media scrutiny of their personality antics. They have also been thrown into the public gaze in a way that is probably unusual and perhaps even uncomfortable for them. In past years, the face of the Chief Medical Officer may never have been known to the public. This year, we can all recognise him just by sight. The chirpiness of Sir Simon Stevens, the eloquence of Patrick Vallance the honest emotion of Jonathan Van-Tam are all now familiar traits.

Perhaps in a time where we have fewer interactions with our support networks and other people in general, it is somehow comforting to relate, in some way, to the frequent personalities on our screens, even if those methods of relating aren’t always positive! Just as our closest friends and family members get on our nerves from time to time, so we have our favourite political and authority figures who we admire or the ones we may even love to laugh at. 

Surely there is no coincidence that in a year that has caused political advisers and super-forecasters to catch the attention of the media like never before, we have also seen the return of the iconic Spitting Image show, gobbling up new material in their hands with greed. 

In what now seems like an age ago, Theresa May defied past prime ministerial trends by pushing away the show glitzy, cozy-up-to-me PM style of Cameron and Blair. The limelight wasn’t natural to her, so heading up the history-making negotiations of a country leaving the European Union probably wasn’t the best match. Boris Johnson, on the other hand, loves the limelight but probably didn’t bargain for having quite as much airtime as he has had to experience in the past few months, and with very little good news to deliver. 

Trust in our leaders currently requires frequent interaction, even if only virtual, but it requires even more than that. Research is being carried out as to why it seems that many female leaders of countries experiencing Covid have handled the pandemic particularly well. Fierce critics of Nicola Sturgeon, for example, suddenly see a new side to her and praise her sensible decisions and incisive timing. Jacinda Adern sees New Zealand successfully drop to 0 recorded cases and ‘does a little dance’ in her living room to celebrate.  

I don’t think anyone who heard Matt Hancock’s voice shake as he spoke of losing his step-grandfather to Covid could doubt his determination to fight it. Authority can be better followed when those in authority are also seen to be as human as the rest of us. Our leaders, after all, are not immortals in ivory towers, they are flesh and blood who can be infected with viruses as easily as the next person and who can love and lose as we all do. So perhaps, in a time when the best and worst of our humanity is entangling simultaneously, what we need is to see the authentic human side of our leaders on the screen.


Grace Thompson

Grace Thompson

SPREADING CHEER, NOT COVID, THIS CHRISTMAS

“The best way to spread Christmas cheer is singing loud for all to hear.” – Will Ferrell, ‘Elf’.

By Fiona Millar

Well folks, it’s that time of year again when the Christmas puds are being made, the over-sized turkeys are being eyed-up, and the Christmas wish-lists are being written. I hope you’ve all been good law-abiding citizens this year!

It’s finally December 2020; the month we’ve all been waiting for; the month to end this dreadful and, depending on how you look at it, uneventful year. Furthermore, we can all breathe a sigh of relief into our face masks that Christmas has not been cancelled. Whilst the 25th of December will have a different feel to the normal boisterous, cheerful, bright-light, tacky-jumper festivities, anything that offers light-hearted distraction from the pandemic is worth it. In fact, Christmas is under more pressure than ever to bring the cheer, the sparkle and the happiness to people’s homes and faces.

But what if we leave the tinsel, the tree, and the turkey alone for just a second and take a moment to think about those who are in much more dire straits than us, because isn’t Christmas meant to be about giving as well as receiving? After all, after a stressful year of stockpiling toilet paper don’t we deserve to indulge ourselves this Christmas season?

Whilst we can and should enjoy ourselves, we need to also look beyond our own desires for material comfort and ease. To be honest, it’s not surprising that lockdown has affected so many people mentally and negatively as we have all had far too much time to think about ourselves. It’s become so easy to lapse into self-preservation mode without giving a second thought to the impoverished circumstances and burdens people around the world are facing right now and were facing even before Coronavirus struck.

Perhaps working for an international relief and development charity, has helped me to see our situation in the UK in a different light. Every day I am reminded of how privileged we are as a nation. When you become more aware of the hardship and deprivation that thousands, even millions, of people in other countries must endure it is heart-breaking. Forget about first world problems like running out of pasta, there are families who don’t even have a single grain of rice to grow or cook. Charities, exist to help men, women and children not only in a time of crisis, but in everyday life. 2020 has been a tough year for all of us and although we have the hope that the next Spring will bring with it some relief, for many the harshness will continue. So, may I suggest that we ease up on our own self-pity and think about those whose needs last a lifetime.

Please do not take up Elf’s suggestion and sing, for that would surely bring a swift end to our Christmas freedom, but please do something much more loving and tangible by supporting local or international charities and make a difference to someone’s life. That, surely, is how to spread long-lasting Christmas cheer and how to end 2020 with a bang.


IS EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE STILL IN FASHION?

By Selina Seesunkur

‘Treat others how you want to be treated’ is an age-old concept. In fact, you will find a similar concept in the Bible which says, ‘Therefore whatever you desire for men to do to you, you shall also do to them; for this is the law and the prophets.’ But how literally do we take this, or has this become a forgotten concept? The Bible, and society in general I would like to think, encourages kindness. If someone harms you, you really should not look to harm them back. However, to be less literal, isn’t it easier to be nice to people who are nice to you, or who you see as a familiar friend?

I am one of those people who respond immediately to a text or email. This is largely because if I do not do it there and then, chances are I will forget. My friends are exactly the same. I found it interesting that some people respond a few days or even weeks later, and wondered how they even remember to flip back and respond? So I tried it out myself. I tried it because I was trying to find new ways of prioritising, but the most interesting and unexpected thing happened. The very same people who took longer to reply, took exception when I did not respond fast enough or as quickly as they had been used to. One person even sent me a long text, which in essence asked if I was annoyed with them. “Nope”, I replied “I was just prioritising!”

I have seen people speak to others like absolute garbage, only to later command respect from the very same person they themselves disrespected. It has even happened to me. Clearly that person has no self-awareness, or perhaps they have but are too arrogant to care, which says more about them than it does of me.

Do you ever get the sense that you are always the one calling your friends, but they never or rarely call you? Do they just not bother because they know you will eventually call them, or because they are simply not as good at time management as you? Sometimes it hurts, doesn’t it! These are just a few modern day examples of issues we face in everyday modern life.

Emotional Intelligence is about being self-aware, and adaptable to external influences. It is also about the ability to recognise behaviours in others and tailor your approach accordingly. There is a lot to be said about treating others in the way you want to be treated, but there is also a lot to be said about breaking the chain and being the bigger person. Covid has given us all an opportunity to hit the reset button, but it is amazing how quickly people fall back into old habits. Make it a personal goal to not be one of those people. By taking the time to be more mindful towards others, you may just experience a more positive outcome. And if you do not, then that’s on them, not you.

Emotional Intelligence is very much in fashion, so do not live in the mercy of another person, nurture and manage your relationships intelligently.